Can I Count On You? Questionnaire
It is very important for the study that your responses accurately reflect your true opinion/feeling. Therefore, please consider each item carefully.
If you were developing a relationship with a friend or a romantic partner, you would probably ask yourself: Can I count on this person to be there for me emotionally at difficult times when “the chips are down?”
People sometimes use indicators or signs to help them answer questions like these about potential or current friends or romantic partners. Below you will find examples of some indicators. Imagine yourself developing a relationship with someone new. Please rate each indicator to tell how useful an indicator you think it would be.
For each item, indicate the number corresponding to your answer in the space provided. Please use the scale shown below:
In determining how much you can count on this person to be there for you, this item is...
Not informative
at all		 Most Informative
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
1.   asks me how my day has been and listens to my response  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
2.   makes physical contact with me in some way (hugging, etc)  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
3.   doesn’t get on my nerves  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
4.   calls me at night to check if I’m okay after leaving a party  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
5.   smiles at me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
6.   asks how I am doing  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
7.   listens to what I am saying  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
8.   makes time for me even when he/she is busy  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
9.   gives me a hug  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
10.   asks me about my day  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
11.   gives me full attention when I am talking  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
12.   remembers to call if he/she said he/she would  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
13.   treats the people around him/her well  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
14.   remembers what I’ve talked about in the past  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
15.   is willing to talk about his/her personal or emotional issues  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
16.   listens attentively and offers advice  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
17.   makes consistent eye contact with me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
18.   is in a bad mood when I am  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
19.   performs spontaneous random acts of kindness  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
20.   would stop what he/ she is doing to help me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
21.   makes an effort to talk to me or see me often  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
22.   says “I love you”  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
23.   hugs me when I look a little sad  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
24.   supports my choices  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
25.   is generally an optimistic person  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
26.   is polite  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
27.   encourages me to go for something that I want  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
28.   makes an effort to understand me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
29.   shows up on time or when we are supposed to meet  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
30.   calls me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
31.   cares about what's important to me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
32.   offers to help me with something without me asking  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
33.   loans me money when I don't have any  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
34.   isn't afraid to cry or pour his/her heart out to me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
35.   helps me when I am sick or have a cold  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
36.   is friendly to everyone  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
37.   introduces me to others  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
38.   is experienced with hard times  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
39.   understands my personality and can give me feedback about a problem  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
40.   is similar to me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
41.   has kept his/her word in prior situations  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
42.   doesn’t doubt me and my judgment calls  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
43.   has conversations on serious topics with me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
44.   sticks up for me if someone gives me a hard time  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
45.   shows understanding about life  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
46.   is considerate, i.e., holds doors or says thank you  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
47.   genuinely cares about my opinion in a conversation  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
48.   knows when to leave me alone and not feel upset at me for being silent  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
49.   reminds me that he will be there come whatever may  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
50.   tries to make me laugh or smile whenever he/she can  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
51.   doesn’t judge me when I do something “stupid”  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
52.   is reliable; gets his/her work done on time  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
53.   handles stress or bad situations well  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
54.   wears whatever he/she wants with me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
55.   makes me feel like I can be myself around him/her without hiding anything  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
56.   does not lie to me even if it will hurt me  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
57.   remembers my birthday  
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
Age:    Currently in a romantic relationship:  yes   no
Ethnicity:    Gender:  male   female
Religion:    Native English speaker:  yes   no
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In submitting this data, I give permission for its unlimited use in research.
   
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